Six weeks ago I fell off a piece of equipment in a pilates class and broke my right wrist.
As I sat on the ground clasping my wrist, I experienced a feeling of calm acceptance and clarity as I insightfully saw that my life as I’d planned it out for the next few months had just changed – and I wasn’t in control! Nothing I could do would wind back those minutes between balancing and falling.
My thinking went along the lines of “oh well, this has happened let’s deal with it.” I also knew I’d be OK with whatever happened.
So there was no drama, no “OMG nowwhatwill I do…howwillcope…thisisadisaster…” flavour of thoughts.
Friends got me to A&E, I had X-rays and saw a Doctor who said the wrist needed manipulation and they’d give me an injection to make the process more comfortable. So I lay quietly on a bed whilst the nurses and Doctor worked on straightening my wrist and hand. I was offered gas and air, but didn’t need it as I was only experiencing minimum discomfort. So I relaxed and let them do their job – no panicky thoughts worried me, just this feeling of surrendering to “what’s so” in the moment.
When they had finished one of the nurses said to me “you’ve got to be the most chilled-out patient we’ve had!”
With the plaster cast fitted, over the next 5 weeks I went through a steep learning curve of adapting to left-handed one handed life and working out how to do all the everyday tasks I’d previously taken for granted – like opening packaging in all its devious guises, signing my name, having a bath, brushing my hair and the most fiddley – doing up and getting my bra on!!
Friends were kind, ferrying me back and forth to the Hospital for more X-rays and check-ups and helping me with the heavier shopping items.
I let my body dictate how much I did, or didn’t do each day – if I felt really tired I rested. I coped, I managed and I healed.
Now the protective cast is off, the fracture has mended and I’m starting Physiotherapy.
Through all of this my understanding of how I experience life, moment to moment through the 3 universal Principles of Mind, Thought and Consciousness, has helped me accept what’s going on without getting caught up in the drama of my situation.
And it struck me of the parallels between this experience and that of bereavement…
When we lose a loved one, there’s no going back. “What if” will never be, our life changes in that moment when they pass.
The grief and pain we feel will lessen over time, and we need to be kind to ourselves during this process.
Friends will be kind too, each in their own way – some offering practical help, some supporting us emotionally and spiritually.
And we will heal, our plaster cast of grief will crack open and be discarded when we’re ready – yes, we may need some “life” physio but we can and will rebuild our lives.
Remember, we all have wisdom – even in what may seem to be the darkest of times – and we’re always OK.
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